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Where did I go wrong?

This famous quote by William Shakespeare says, “This above all – to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man”.

It’s funny to say that in these times we live in there is rife competition in the race to judge you when you make a mistake. You only need to switch on the news or read comments on social media to know this is true.

We must become experts at winning the race of self judgement, this I believe is Shakespeare’s point. Notice I did not say self condemnation. Being quick to identify where you went wrong and taking the steps to reroute will insure you against the unkind criticism of others. This requires constant awareness and diligence. If you allow others to judge you first, you are more likely to engage in self condemnation than judgement.

Taking responsibility for your self and your actions is the best form of defence even before the attacks come. When you notice that things have not gone the way you intended, be quick to shut out the other opinions while you ask yourself, “where did I go wrong?“