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Help you to help me

I am sure you must have come across the phrase “help me to help you”.
It is particularly funny when it is used in a comedy sketch where it is apparent to everyone that the person who needs help is unaware or unwilling to let go of what is harming them even when it is pointed out by the one who can help them.

From that point of view, we somehow believe that when we offer help, it is for the benefit of the one we are helping. I would say that this is only somewhat true because when we reach beyond ourselves to invest in another human being, we are actually reaching out to ourselves also.

Life lived alone in isolation and devoid of human interaction is stripped of the ability to attain maximum impact and fulfilment. As leadership guru John C. Maxwell puts it, “One is too small a number to achieve greatness. No accomplishment of real value has ever been achieved by a human being working alone.”

When you extend yourself to help another, you are joining forces with them to achieve an outcome greater than what each person would have been able to achieve alone. You gain fulfilment, you feel connected, you experience refreshing. These things are essential for the nourishment of your being.

So the next time you come across someone who needs your help, remind yourself of this “I will help you to help me”.