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Holding it together

Holding it together is the key to making a system work for you. The bicycle handle is important, but so are the wheels, chain, brakes or pedals. If I tried to cycle with the handle only, I would be going nowhere even though I steered it in the direction I should be headed. It is all the parts held together that give me the momentum I desire to reach my destination. 

I found I made good progress in any area of my life where I held together my observations, contemplations, conversations, relations, actions, and positions. 

I have been in situations where my job was not making the progress I would like. Applying these principles, I would observe my environment looking out for what and who were considered good for the job. I then contemplated what I could do to be and contribute to the good. Next I went about engaging my colleagues and managers in conversations about what good looked like and the best way to achieve it. This usually led to more open relations with those that were like-minded. I then began to take action on those ideas I had shared or learned and before long my position within the team changed for the better. It has worked for my marriage, finances, business plans and all areas of my life. 

Sometimes you don’t want to look at it, or think about it or talk about it or be around it or do it or be it. Whenever you are tempted to feel that way remember this quote – “Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.” – Unknown. 

I have learnt to focus on the things I should hold onto, and improved my speed of folding up the things I should let go of. 

Hold it all together – observation, contemplation, conversation, relation, action and position.